A MUST READ: Impact Of Social Media On Relationships

No doubt, social media has come to stay in our lives as a powerful tool of communication and even in our personal relationships, helping minds alike to stay connected, spread information and share stories with one another.

But it is surprising how this key factor to a good relationship also can be a severe cause of bitterness and separation in relationships.

Helen, a pained housewife said; "my husband always holds his Iphone and keeps checking for notifications and also plays stupid games while laying down on the bed. I am tired of doing all the house chores and taking care of our son all alone while he fondles with his phone. What can be done to change this situation?"

This married man also competes with social media for his wife's attention: "My wife suffers from constant checking of Facebook notifications and any application pop-ups. Although she doesn't do it during dinner or any of our discussions, it does eat away a lot of her extra time." Peter explained.

Another married woman, Peju, has something different to say: "My husband has been the most wonderful man of all time. Even in his busy schedules at work, he still finds time to put a call across or just chat in-between meetings to know how the children and I are doing throughout the day."

Now, from the above experiences, we can come to the conclusion that the social media has its negative and positive roles and effects in various relationships.

While Helen might think the emergence of new technologies and various social media networks isn't really a nice idea, Peter obviously is a middle person who thinks of both the advantages and the disadvantages hand in hand while Peju is totally a happy person in the name of how social media has enhanced her marriage.

The truth is, it is what you make out of social media that you get from it. You cannot keep consuming precious moments meant to be shared with your loved ones,on Facebook, Twitter etc or on your phone games and expect that things are just good or everything just keeps working normally!,no...nothing will be normal! However, when you spend a considerable and aggregate amount of time necessary without over-doing it, things just work out fine.

In our everyday activities, as we try to do the public show of supposedly "doing good" on our various social media platforms, we must always bear in mind that as we are trying to impress people who really do not matter to our lives, we must always ensure that our private lives and people who really matter to our well being, have our adequate attention without feeling ignored.

- Adams Odunayo